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In The Age Of Hate, Being Nice Matters In Temecula

To prevent schoolchildren from picking on their peers now and into adulthood -- whether it be bullying face-to-face or online -- the Temecula Valley Unified School District will hold its third annual “Because Nice Matters” week.

Look at the comments section of most online news outlets and – no surprise – there’s a barrage of hate.

Seems bullying is not something only kids do.

To prevent schoolchildren from picking on their peers now and into adulthood -- whether it be bullying face-to-face or online -- the Temecula Valley Unified School District will hold its third annual “Because Nice Matters” week. 

The event begins Sept. 23. Various activities are planned at TVUSD campuses throughout the week designed to get kids thinking about why people bully and the consequences of hateful behavior.

What are your thoughts? Do you think online bullying is making us a society of hate?

Michele Clark Powell September 22, 2013 at 04:58 PM
I like this idea but to really get to the core they should bring the reality in at full speed. People like Andy Williams should be brought in to speak to these kids. Children rotting in the prison system for many many decades due to being bullied and falling through cracks because they spoke up and no one was really listening until after the tragic ending. Why we don't give these youth in prison the opportunity to make a difference to the youth on the outside is beyond me, but I am pretty damn sure that hearing it from the source would be the biggest impact possible. Particularly when the lecture ends, and the students realize that this person, this youth they have all been viewing will be going from this school back to prison that night and for many decades more. All because some horrible people chose him to abuse until he snapped, until they broke him. BTW Andy Williams was that Santana High shooter. Amazing kid and a victim as well as a convicted murderer. Sad state of the world.
Brenda September 22, 2013 at 05:03 PM
You are spot on with the bullying online Toni. I experience it myself here by a few now, a few in the past, and always different names, but obviously same people. I have learned to just laugh at or make a funny remark back because it is indeed high schoolish bullying. "Patch" asks us, as does every news outlet, "What do you feel or think about this article or situation"? That is what I write. If I happen to know more about an article I might share a bit of that, but certainly NOT all of it because there are some things that should not be said here. But if through my experience, or knowledge I will say what I feel about an article. No one has to agree but they certainly do not have to call me names repeatedly, over and over and over again. Its so bad they do not come to comment on the article ONLY ON MY COMMENTS. The teenagers get it very bad at school and then on the computer and their phones constantly, whereas they used to only get it at school. But with all the new technology they get it 24/7 and if they do get to sleep they wake up to 50 more messages in phone or computer. In one incident where one of my daughters was being threatened with being jumped by this group of about 15 girls there was stacks and stacks of myspace logs given to the Principal as evidence of how many kids it involved either who wanted to beat and those who didnt but had comments about it on their myspaces. Whats so bad is my daughter still did get jumped, getting her head slammed up against metal poles the moment she stepped off the school grounds. The parents of these girls were oblivious, shocked to the fact their daughters would talk, threaten, use the worse of name calling AND be on the computers so long to wreck this havoc. This was the "popular" group of girls at school that had gotten mad at my daughter who had befriended someone not so popular. So they tossed her out of their "popular" group. After they beat her up, they wanted her back "in". The main point here is these kids go through this constantly, day and night, at school and it stresses them out, in alot of cases causes depression if a group is making fun of them. It distracts them from all the things they need to be concentrating on like school, homework, family, and developing healthy relationships at school. But its impossible with all this bullying, badgering, dont be friends with this one, she dresses stupid, she is a cow, dont be friends with her no one likes her, she is a (list every bad name), then you have a kid who does not want to go to school, is upset all the time seeing, reading by computer and phones all the bad things being said about her or him. They do not even have to know the kids who harrass them like this. Or putting up a hand in class to answer a question and being laughed at, called an idiot for their opinion, theory. WRONG, when they should be taught that everyone has a different opinion unless someone is badgering them to have the same as someone else. Alot of kids are left to feel not worthy of much in their life, cause we know one of the most important things to teenagers in school is friends, boys, and fitting in. So we have many kids emotionally injured, not doing well in school, depressed, and its heartbreaking to those of us parents trying to get to the root of the problem. Especially when the kids are less likely to say who is bullying them cause they know it will get WORSE if they tell someone or ask for help so they stop. :/ Its a very sad thing and I wish it could just stop for all these kids so they can smile when they go to school and are not always looking over their shoulders. :(
Brenda September 22, 2013 at 05:03 PM
Oh hell its a long one again. :/ Sorry just dont read it.
Kelsi September 22, 2013 at 05:21 PM
Why is this only for a WEEK? This should be a constant thing, not just some little holiday week. Don't suddenly enforce stopping bullying for five days, stop it everyday..
Brenda September 22, 2013 at 11:12 PM
Kelsi you are right. Schools STILL do not do anything about it. That is why the kids are scared to say anything when they do get bullied. They get it worse!! Its actually positive attention from other kids when the bully'ers get taken into the office and everyone says "hey why you get taken in"? It makes them even more popular when they say "oh I was going to beat some b****up and she went and squeeling, chicken chit". So these kids being bullied wont say anything, no one will be their witness because of the same fears :/ So it never stops.
Jade Thorpe September 23, 2013 at 11:09 AM
It's not just kids. I and several of my coworkers get bullied at work constantly. We've managed to create a hateful, fearful society, and that's incredibly hard to change. I'm amazed at how rude, disrespectful, and just plain mean the majority of people I've met here are. I'm now finding it very hard to be pleasant to people because of all the negativity thrown in my direction on a daily basis. Kids learn from their parents. If the parents are bullies, so are the kids. Yes, I think the schools need to take a harder stance on bullying. I went to Santana, I graduated the year before Andy Williams snapped. He didn't have to, but no one gives a damn about anyone anymore. Find me a person in a position to make a difference who actually follows through. I've never seen it.
jillmann September 23, 2013 at 01:57 PM
I know there is no malice in my heart. I live kindly and it shows. I model myself after mother Teresa- I aim high. I'm not there but I consciously live and think kindly. Its as easy as being hateful. And it doesn't take a huge amount of words and explanation. Just do it. Children will see and learn.
Brenda September 23, 2013 at 03:06 PM
If everyone only knew it was that easy Jillmann. It is easier and takes alot less effort to be nice to everyone then to pick some out of the crowds either at school, work, play. The worse people who get ridiculously mean? DRUNKS!! Most any woman who has been abused can tell you that.

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